As with all things in life, relationships will always have their good days as well as their bad days. Especially when it comes to long distance relationships. If you have been in a long distance relationship for as long as I have, or maybe even longer, you will definitely have experienced those days when nothing seems to go right. There will be days where you both are just too tired to make an effort. You both come home, you’ve had a rough day at work, or you’re simply not up to it. For whatever reason, you slip into a moment of insanity where you don’t appreciate each other. Or at least, you take your partner for granted. If you’re lucky, you’ll quickly realise the path you’re headed down and immediately steer your direction away from that path. Unfortunately, if you don’t realise it, you soon head down a path where you’ve become accustomed to taking each other for granted. At which point in time, it will be very difficult to slip out of that habit.
Today, was one of those days for my husband and I. We’ve both been under a lot of strain lately and it’s starting to seep into our relationship. My husband is trying to finalise things on his end so that he can permanently move to Australia. I’m doing my best to wait patiently (patience isn’t one of my virtues) combined with stress from other areas of my life makes it really difficult to try and balance everything. I’ve been particularly grouchy these last couple of days and my husband is feeling the brunt of it. He’s trying his best not to retaliate and making an effort to soothe me.
That was the wake up point for me, I suppose. I snapped out of my black mood when I realised that I wasn’t appreciating his efforts. I guess with long distance relationships, or with any relationships for that matter, you need to set up safety points. Sort of like a radar that alerts you to whenever you are about to cross the line of taking your partner for granted. I think that’s important. People often fall into the trap of thinking that their relationships are strong enough to withstand anything. I couldn’t agree more. However, while relationships can withstand many things, there are some things that it cannot. Like being taken for granted. No healthy relationship can withstand this. Once it is planted in a relationship, it begins to grow and fester, eroding away all the positive qualities that you’ve worked so hard to build.
In the end, if you’re taking your partner for granted, you should steer your direction away from this path. It leads to nothing but pain. Instead, you should remember why you fell in love with your partner in the first place. And you should let them know it, too.
1 Comment
May 26, 2009 at 4:44 pm
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i’m feeling the same way too right now.. =(