Comments for Ms Laine

Comment on Long distance relationships: Fail-proof formula? by Chris

Chris — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 02:06:54 +0000

Hello,

My long distance relationship of 5 months actually failed yesterday. She is in Texas and i am in the military in Japan. She says that she cannot handle the distance anymore, that she wants to make it work when i am home for good (9 months from now). I am honestly devestated. what do i do? should i keep holding onto hopes of re kindeling the relationship when i am home or do i try to move on and not worry about it?
I am happy that your relationship is working out congratulations. i think i just need an outsiders (womans) perspective on why it went amazing for 5 months and then within 2 days it was over?

Thank you

Comment on Long distance relationships: Fail-proof formula? by Van

Van — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 19:38:07 +0000

I was with my bf for about 3 years till he moved away, we kept our LDR for about 14 months, but alas it did not work. Simply he met someone else, and I couldnt live in a LDR, its too hard, I didnt met someone else, Im single and happy, I just didnt want that kind of relationship, you can love someone else with all your heart, but people change their minds, and eventually you’ll have no choice but to move on. I root for couples that can endure this kind of thing, I could, he couldnt. But dont prove anyone else wrong. Things can happen unexpectedly, even if the LDR has been steady for an odd number of years. It can one day fall apart. Just be ready for that.

Comment on Long distance relationships: Fail-proof formula? by Michelle

Michelle — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 14:56:33 +0000

I will also be in a long distance relationship soon. We are both headed to two separate colleges in a couple days. They are only 2 1/2 hours away from each other, but I am still sad because of the potentiality that our LDR wont work. We’ve been together for over 1 1/2 yrs and I just can’t think of how lonely I’m going to be not seeing him for awhile. He’s leaving tomorrow and I am trying to say goodbye to him without any tears but it seems inevitable. I love him too much. I liked your article btw.

Comment on Long distance relationships: Fail-proof formula? by Julia

Julia — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 07:50:29 +0000

Hey, i really like your article, i know what you mean!
I am in a long distance relationship as well, he lives in australia and i am in germany..
it is really hard to maintain this relationship, knowing that we wont see each other for 7 months, but it is still worth! just by talking on the phone,internet etc you get to know your other half so much better and its amazing how you appreciate your time together if you get to spend some weeks/months together!
i think LDRs dont work if youre not so serious about it or if you just need someone to be with you 24/7! but if you feel like you found the one person you wanna be with, and youre serious about it, you can go through a LDR successfully..
i think you gotta have a perspective tho, you cant just stay together and not know when youre gonna solve the distance problem etc…
best to you all!

Comment on Long distance relationships: Fail-proof formula? by d.s

d.s — Wed, 27 May 2009 17:01:34 +0000

That’s a great post! I am also in a LDR with my fiance of soon 3 1/2 years. We are brining the LD part of the relationship to a close in less than a month, as I will be moving to Germany to be with him. Thanks for being one of the optimistic advocates of a difficult situation that CAN work. All the best to you! <3

Comment on Taken for granted by bluchic

bluchic — Tue, 26 May 2009 06:44:27 +0000

i’m feeling the same way too right now.. =(

Comment on Who is Ms Laine? by Stephanie

Stephanie — Thu, 07 May 2009 00:48:28 +0000

also in an LDR 4+ years. love your writing and am encouraged by your tips (i.e. safety points and avoiding taking your partner for granted) thanks.

Comment on Lost by saishia

saishia — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 05:43:49 +0000

Everybody goes through these phases…dont they say…life is a roller coaster…infact good that you are going through these thoughts….these very thoughts, if channelised well, can push you to look at what are those hidden fears thats holding you back….when you feel life is chaotic, step back, take some time off to reconnect with your soul,….and FIRST and the most important thing, be easy on yourself…and LOVE yourself unconditionally just the way you are, and see all the fears surface….once they surface….acknowledge them and face them and work towards dealing with them…..connect with your soul thats the key…Follow your bliss~ Wish you get back the spirit to get back again, as LIFE IS SIMPLY gorgeous, inspite of all its grey shades )

Comment on Writing saved me by ruzkin

ruzkin — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 11:56:22 +0000

I had the same feeling sometimes, but I channeled my energies into writing so much that the rhythm of writing every day persisted no matter what my mood. Good to hear you’re trying to do the same. Good luck!

Comment on Love of writing by Helen

Helen — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 22:10:10 +0000

Writing little bits and pieces here and there is definitely enough. Even with just five minutes of writing a day, you can get the creative juices flowing again.
If you can’t think of what to write, don’t be afraid to scribble down some nonsense. You never know, you might spark a great idea for a story or poem.
I’ve done a lot of travelling recently and have been amazed at how conducive train journeys are to writing. There’s something about moving forwards, with the landscape rushing by, and knowing that you only have limited time before you have to get off again and become immersed in normal life, that makes the words pour out of me.
It’s so effective that I’m thinking of riding around on public transport all day just to get some writing done!